past lovers can unite again in this lifetime and are always fighting about something. The something is the upsets they had in a previous lifetime. Since they do not have the ability to go back and look at the upset they don't know how to get out of fighting. These type also have a compulsion to stay together no matter what because they are trying to solve the problem they had in the previous lifetime.

Enemies can marry too not knowing they are enemies and have some revenge from a previous life they decided to do in the future but since they can't see the problem too they also have a compulsion to be together.

Another type is called games condition. This is where one can win but not two. I had one girl friend like this. She came emotionally down not knowing why and would stay there until I came down and when I would start losing like my job or anything else. As soon as she brought me down she would be happy. She was also unaware of what was causing it. She was taken back in time to a period of the vikings and other tribes near the north sea. She and I were the kings sons. The tribe could not have 2 kings so we had to challenge to see who will be king. We made an agreement to kill each other at the same time so the tribe would have no king. We were the best swordsmen and horsemen of the time and we attacked. She said I hesitated and she took off my head. Whenever she got upset she would have severe pains in her neck and felt like someone cut her head off. This happens to a person who took someone else's head off and will get the effect of what they caused themselves. She left the tribe and wandered Europe in agony from not being able to go with me. She was angry with me for not cutting off her head too so we could be together through lifetimes. I thought about it and remembered I couldn't cut off her head because she was my brother. We had many more lifetimes together with similar upsets.

This put her in a games condition with me in this lifetime.

so when you see some man abusing a women remember this. Two are playing the game. She did everything she could to bring me down and make me lose and if I didn't hit her she would hit me to get it started. Her intention was to get me to hit her making me so angry and even if I tried to walk away and cool off she refused to let me go. Her purpose in bringing me down to where I would hit her was to use it to get others against me and make me look bad.

When someone explained to me what a games condition was I realized the only way we could win was to separate. Though both of us was compulsive to be with each other like a very severe compulsion, I had to force myself to leave her so she would have a good life. It was the right thing to do.

Those things never happened to me again.

If you see a similar situation it may be possible to get them to separate by telling them what a games condition is.

These cabal force others to do insane acts to be able to blackmail them and control them. They must be acts so horrifying that is beyond all human reasoning to put them in a compulsion to continue.

These are a few of the one's I know

jiminii

Don't let religion get between friends -- it might be good to try a marriage counselor or couples therapist.

Usually there is a physical explanation or trauma from childhood that fouls up our adult relationships.

Kids who grew up with stressful injury or medical condition , like asthma or missing an eye, can turn into aggressive adults.

Not to mention people who have been threatened, ie parent says "you gonna die" and for ever the girl is worried about being killed by her lover, etc so much can go wrong in relationships.

Not to mention toxins in local environment such as mercury and lead... These make normal folks hyper aggressive.

Don't self isolate, be happy to meet people and try to be as observant as if you were writing an article, then just try to relax and enjoy the friendship.

About the past lives thing, there are oriental teachers who do believe european clans were badly affected by infighting and we do carry a heavy karmic burden.

But be strong and be You.

Jiminii, I've been thinking lately of getting tested for congenital and or acquired face blindness.

My ability to place a face in context of the first meeting has worsened over the last 20 years. Apparently people with autism develop this.

I though the actor Brad Pitt suffers this too, his reaction was to become a shut in and rely only on the people he knew intimately.

Hugs and sorry if my reaction was premature.
Check this out:

There are many developmental disorders associated with an increased likelihood that the person will have difficulties in face perception, of which the person may or may not be aware. The mechanism by which these perceptual deficits take place is largely unknown. A partial list of some disorders that often have prosopagnosiac components would include nonverbal learning disorder, Alzheimer's Disease, and autism spectrum disorders in general. However, these types of disorders are very complicated, so arbitrary[11]