I don't think you went off topic at all, Spiritwind. Thanks for sharing. It may interest you to know that I started out quite introverted and grew myself into what I am today... deliberately. I see my own ego as a cherished, fragile... imperfect thing that I need to protect with all my might. It's constantly changing and growing. I love it to bits.Spiritwind wrote:The ego as a vital component as opposed to -
Stripping down the upsets and the ego
Funny, but I can relate to both these statements. I'm not trying to get rid of my ego either, but I am practicing behavior modification on myself when I recognize what I would call attributes of my negative ego. I may not go around advertising it to the world, but sometimes have to engage in a bit of self correction.
Pris, you strike me as someone who is fairly self confident. In my case, I was almost emotionally retarded. Some of us had to spend considerable time just overcoming our parental programming, and fundamentalist religious programming. They can really do a number on a person. They heap a ton of guilt, shame, and other good stuff on you, that can leave your head spinning for years.
So, for me, a little arguing can be invigorating, but totally not fun if either party hasn't taken a look at their hidden triggers. Just look at the divorce rate. My life has improved immensely since I was able to identify and work on many of those triggers. To me, that is how the negative side of your ego can work against you. I could give examples, but I think you get the idea. Anyway, sorry if I went too off topic.
Arguing/confrontation/debate with anyone, public speaking etc, used to scare the heck out of me... not so much any more. But, I really had to work on it -- my self confidence. It didn't come... naturally. If you want something enough, it's amazing what can be accomplished with determination... and practice.
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